Your self-esteem is how you value and perceive yourselves. If you have low self-esteem than:
- You may feel like you hateor dislike yourself
- You may feel yourself worthlessor not good enough
- You may be unable to make decisions
- You may feel like no one likes you
- You may blameyourself for things that aren’t your fault
- You may guiltfor spending time or money on yourself
- You are unable to recognize your strengths
- You will undeservingof happiness
- You will be low in confidence.
Having low self-belief prevents you from living the life you want to live. If you realize that your low self-esteem have bad impact on your life, than you need to improve your self-esteem. Here are some tips that helps you on improving your self-esteem:
You need to think about what is affecting your self-esteem
In order to improve your self-esteem, you need to think and analyze what is affecting your self- esteem. Try to find out the factors responsible.
You need to Avoid negative self-talk
In order to increase your self-esteem you need to avoid negative self-talk.
You need to learn to identify and challenge your negative self-beliefs, this will have a positive impact on your self-esteem. You need to ask yourself: whether I talk to loved ones, or think about them in such a negative way?
You need to rely on self-help resources
You need to rely on self-help resources such as applications and books that are usually based on cognitive behavioral therapy which may help you to think about the way you view yourself and you need to develop a habit of thinking and saying positive things about yourself.
Need not to compare yourself with celebrities
Always try to avoid comparing yourself with people on social media. Although it is difficult for you to avoid comparing yourself unfavorably to others especially when you are surrounded and inspired by luxurious life of celebrities and people on social media.
But you need remember that what that people are sharing on social media about their life is not the full picture and comparing yourself with them is not realistic.
Connect with people who love you
Always try to connect with people who love you. If you spend your time with people who treat you badly or do not appreciate you or value you, this will lead you to feel bad about yourself.
You need to make a conscious effort to spend more time with people who love you and treat you in the way as you expect to be treated. This will help you to feel good about yourself and helps you to avoid negative thinking.
When you talk to loved ones about how you feel, it will help you to reassess how you view yourself. You tend to know what they like about you, because they see you differently than how you see yourself.
You need to learn to be assertive
When you have negative thinking about yourself and you do not like yourself than you can easily assume that other people would not like you either.
You need not to focus on pleasing others. This over stretching yourself to please others will leave you with less energy to focus on yourself and will affect your mental health badly.
You need to accept challenges
In order to increase your self-esteem you need to accept challenges.
Try to take up a hobby or join any class or spend most of your time for something you feel passionate about.
Sometimes it seems to be hard to find the motivation to set goals for yourself, especially when you lack confidence on yourself or tend to worry about what other people are thinking about you.
Always start to make small goals, achievement of those motivate you towards further achievements and you start to think positive about yourself.
Try to focus on your positive attitudes
In order to increase your self-estimate you always try to focus on your positive attitudes. If you think about yourself that you’re not good at something. This will prevent you from doing things you like and enjoy or trying new things, this will make you feel bad about yourself.
You need to:
- Celebrate your achievements and success, it does not matter how small they seem to you, always praise yourself.
- Accept compliments. Make a note of them that will gives you confidence when you will doubting yourself.
- Make a list of what you like about yourself. You could include aspects of your personality, your physical appearance and what you like to do. You may also ask a friend or loved one to help you in making this.
You need to take great care of yourself
If you have low self-esteem it will be difficult for you to find the motivation to take care of your physical health. You even feel guilty about spending time on yourself, but it is necessary for your mental health.
Focus on following and need to know how they are affecting yourself:
Do not take stress.
Obtain information about how to manage stress and tips to relax.
Getting proper sleep is necessary for your health.
Taking up proper exercise can help you feel better in lots of different ways.
What you eat affects your mental and physical health.
Drugs and alcohol
Avoid drinking alcohol and taking drugs as they have a negative effect on your mental health.